At the moment your daughter has you over a barrel because your weak spot (understandably) is your grandchild. Your husband is conveniently not getting involved because he knows he doesn’t have to. Counselling would be brilliant for all of you ( aft.org.uk ), but especially for you and your daughter. I’d love to get her perspective on things.

Where does my 20 year old daughter live now?

My 20-year-old daughter got pregnant at university, while living with her boyfriend – they are no longer together. She had to come and live back at the family home until she could resume her studies. We encouraged this as it was best for her and the baby. My grandchild is absolutely delightful and loved as much as I love my own children.

Do You Love Your grandchild as much as your children?

My grandchild is absolutely delightful and loved as much as I love my own children. I do a lot of the childcare and babysitting. I did not envisage doing this in my 50s, but feel strongly that support must be given and want to give it as I love them both. I have given up most of my spare time to do this.

Do you need counselling for your daughter and grandchild?

But you need to let them take responsibility. At the moment your daughter has you over a barrel because your weak spot (understandably) is your grandchild. Your husband is conveniently not getting involved because he knows he doesn’t have to. Counselling would be brilliant for all of you ( aft.org.uk ), but especially for you and your daughter.

What to do when adult children won’t leave home-living?

That way you can use it for her “rent” and then use what is left to buy clothes and provide for the needs of your grandchild. That way, her daughter is covered and both have a place to live, but your daughter gets nothing from it at all for her own personal needs or wants. The money is, after all]

When did my 20 year old daughter move home?

She moved home when she got pregnant as a student. I do a lot of the childcare, but she shouts me down when I try to talk to her about anything My 20-year-old daughter got pregnant at university, while living with her boyfriend – they are no longer together. She had to come and live back at the family home until she could resume her studies.

What should you do if your adult child is not working?

If the need is legitimate, you shouldn’t feel the resentment of being “put upon”. The person is usually trying her best to find work. If she is sincere, she will be off the couch looking for work. She will bend over backwards to help around your home – cleaning, cooking, doing yard work or helping with the younger children without being asked.